11 Feb 3 Tips For Healthy Parenting After Divorce
Many challenges come with being a single parent. All the responsibility falls on one parent’s shoulders, leading to feeling overwhelmed and uncertain. However, there are ways to make this process easier for both the parent and the child.
Parents should be mindful of how much they dedicate to providing care for their children alone. As a single parent, prioritising time for yourself to avoid burnout, emotional outbursts or feelings of being overwhelmed is just one of the responsibilities that come with transitioning to this new way of life.
On the other hand, single parents must also be aware of spending enough quality time with their kids to bond with them and connect emotionally. However, valuable time with the children sometimes may not be possible when both parents work busy hours or have other external responsibilities.
In this article, you will discover three essential tips to consider when transitioning into single parenthood to benefit your child/children and you.
Managing An Emotional Breakdown
Many factors can contribute to an emotional breakdown, such as the struggle of balancing work and family or experiencing trauma, like a divorce.
When people experience emotional breakdowns, they often have a hard time coping with their feelings. They might feel overwhelmed or lose touch with reality. The emotional rollercoaster that people go through when they experience this type of event can be tough to deal with alone.
The following are good practices to consider when you begin feeling an emotional breakdown coming on:
- Be kind to yourself. Rest, take a walk outside, try meditation or yoga, watch a favourite movie. Do the things that spark joy for you, as this will look different for everyone. Moreover, take note when negative self messaging kicks in and combat this by verbalising it or writing it down to get it out of your head.
- Seek professional help and support. Although it is not always easy, having a trusted and reliable professional source to guide you through these trying times can provide clarity and a sense of surety in your parenting style and decision-making for yourself and your children.
- Give your children the love and support they need, and allow them to grieve in their way. They may need professional support to help them work through their emotions too. However, the security of a parent giving them the guidance and support they need will be effective for long-term healing and rebuilding trust in the household.
How You Can Support The Transition
The transition from being a part of a family with both parents to being a single parent requires significant adjustments for the child. Here are some ways that you can support your child during this transition:
- Let them know that they are not alone.
- Spend time with them and listen to what they have to say.
- Keep reminding them that you love them and want the best for them even though things have changed.
- Encourage open communication so they can talk about their feelings openly.
- Respect their need to work through things at their own pace because every child is different. However, never neglect your parenting responsibilities like providing food, shelter, clothing and the other necessities in life. Unwavering emotional support is also essential to their well-being.
Easing The Financial Burden On Single-Parent Households
The financial burden of a single-parent home is significantly higher than that of a two-parent household. And this burden becomes even more challenging when the partnership or marriage has to support more than one child.
Financial freedom post-divorce starts with knowing your income and how it compares to your expenses. A simple way to do this is by looking at your monthly spending and dividing them by your monthly earnings. If you are spending more money than you are earning, you will need to make some changes.
Here are some practical tips that you can implement right away to help you manage your finances as a single-parent household:
- Create a realistic budget to help you manage your income vs expenses.
- Plan for emergencies by having a backup fund.
- Become familiar with your fixed expenses.
- Start working to reduce or eliminate any debt that you may have accumulated.
- Seek financial advice or coaching from an expert in the field.
- Be wise regarding your credit score and history.
- Familiarise yourself with investment opportunities and retirement savings.
By taking control of your finances, you are, in turn, taking control of your life and that of your child. This mindfulness regarding your finances will help to ensure that you are meeting their needs and your own while setting up a safe financial future.
A divorce is an unfortunate event for anyone but it can be especially devastating for the children involved. Therefore, it is essential to take the necessary steps to ensure that you and your children are looked after and transition smoothly into this new way of life.
At FEDOROV Family Lawyers, we give you real advice you can trust. We empower you with the information you need to make better-informed decisions about your family, children, relationships and financial security for now and into the future. For immediate support and guidance, please feel free to contact us today.